i-am-a-doula...I hope people birth. Yes I've been involved with real live births, but even more than that, I've been involved with real people BIRTHING vision. People heavy with vision. People in labor bringing forth that vision. I've been involved with the delivery too. That baring down and pushing with all your strength because you have no choice, YOU MUST DO THIS!
Did you know they did studies on doulas. When a woman is present at childbirth who is knowledgable about the process of birth, if they just sit in the rocking chair, they bring oh they bring comfort just BY BEING THERE....
I'm that someone who is THERE. I quietly suit up to doula. I quietly pull on comfortable clothes and pack a bag, ready to stay for hours. I leave my needs behind and come to focus on yours. I listen to you breathe. I hear your cries of fear and confusion. We meet each crossroad and consider your options. I only speak up reminding you of what you wanted and what you said in the peaceful times. I come along side...Not ahead, not behind, but aside.
I hold ground. I hold space. I keep my finger in place.