I have analyzed over and over how in the world I've found success on a diet that's become a way of living? If I could figure out WHY this worked this time out of hundreds of "tries"...I'd understand something profound...I was sure of it, so I keep looking.
Being an optimist...
I was sure there was a golden nugget tucked into this whole journey...what I found, after almost missing it was, Community. I almost raced past it, looking for the profound...Yet it's the most profound piece of all. Together we change and go farther...together, because community inspires focus and focus is how you get to your goals!
I didn't go it alone. I walked with someone I cared deeply for. I behaved because we agreed. I didn't want to let her down. She didn't want to let me down. She lived in Boston, and I lived in Atlanta and we clung together. Ok, the truth is we're close close cousins. We love each other deeply. So we really didn't want to let each other down. WE walked out an entire year together, emailing or texting almost daily.
Together? Was that it? YES! It was!!!
When I really saw it, I knew it was the missing link for so many. Facebook makes it so utterly possible. Videos, blogs, sharing real life...I began to pour all I had out to those small communities. Truth is, there are bigger and better equipped groups. I don't focus on food, I focus on the journey...and then a whisper came, "start a local group"..A Yes! Group. Now there are 3 and after 6 months of pouring into them..they are starting to flourish...
Together? Was that it? YES! It was!!!
I sit in these groups, as the leader I speak and lead and then I often sit back and watch it all unfold. We've all got the diet book! We should be skinny! But we're not, BECAUSE MOST OF US NEED OTHERS! We need each other! We cannot afford to miss this! We need community! It's really the only reason I've been successful and remain so. I stay IN community.
I've met all kinds. I've met so many amazing people from all over the world, really. I've heard a common statement, "I'm all alone in this." Unfortunately there isn't a community on every corner wanting to be there for you as you venture on a lower carb approach. And some of us, aren't so keen on being in a "support" group. Now listen, I get it. I've not been the biggest fan of community. I'm pretty introverted...I'm a loner. But I cannot refute what community has done for me. It might have saved my life, and yours...I mean it! It might have really saved my life. It's why I keep the weight off and my focus...I've had some bumpy times in maintenance, but community helps me focus for the long haul! (I have a history a walking off lowcarb and gaining all my weight back...No more because of the community I walk in.)
I quietly keep the door open for you. I know it's by revelation. But ask yourself, if you've got this, HOW are you really doing? How is that resolve, that focus, those goals? What is keeping you from community?
As dieters we are SNEAKY...We barter and bargain and seek to set the rules up to our liking while dealing with addictive substances, we're sure we've got a handle on...We're in denial. We're proud. We're sure, and yet we are NOT getting to our weight loss goals, we're going around the mountain again. Oh how I KNOW this place, round and round I went, sure I could do it by myself, my way.
My friend said to me yesterday, I'm keeping the door open to all of them, I see them post on Facebook. I know what they're eating or drinking. "BUT" she said, I'll keep the door open and hope that they will come sit in our atmosphere...I nodded at the compassionate heart, my door is open too. Come sit with people who are trying...because it will inspire you!
Community is in my blood and bones now. No turning back. Groups are coming together, a retreat is on the books. We're going to link arms and not only change our LIVES, but keep the Change!
Community saved my life